When A Narcissist Isn’t the Center of Attention – 8 of 21
What happens when a narcissist isn’t the center of attention? They get mad and start drama.
I was on the way to the hospital, and I thought I was going to have surgery. “Mike” got mad at me and then blocked me while I was in the hospital. He didn’t even check-in to see if I was ok for 48 hours.
I was so mad, but I engaged in the dramatic dance that always followed his blocking me on text and social media. Eventually, I let it go and things went back to “normal” as was the cycle of abuse.
Somewhere in the far back corners of my mind, I knew this wasn’t how someone who loved me would treat me. However, I didn’t feel that at the time. Feelings were always messy, and I was often confused by what was going on and ignored my gut feelings.
He was really good at gaslighting me and jumbling up my perception of how things went down. I often felt like I was walking on eggshells while I was with him.
At one point I started taking notes of what happened so that I could wade through his nonsense.
It wasn’t until I was with Paul and saw and felt how he treated me that I realized how absurd it was for someone to respond to my threatened health by ignoring me. It was like a light went on in my head that allowed me to see how real love bonds and strengthens in times of need. That light illuminated how twisted so many aspects of that old relationship were.
If you are in a narcissistic relationship or any kind of toxic relationship, know that you can experience support. I have used this experience to help others heal and thrive. Please reach out and we can figure out a direction for you.