You Need Community to Truly Heal

I have chatted with so many people about how they are on “their own healing journey” and
how their doing a lot of healing on their own. This is great news! Everyone needs to start
somewhere.

However, there is only so much one can do on their solo healing journey. There are a few
reasons for this this.

One – There is a part of your nervous system that will only light up when you are in
community/companionship.

Humans are pack animals. We historically lived and moved in groups of people because
this was how we would stay safe. Being in a group is so important to our survival, that it is
wired into our brains. Prehistorically we would need someone to watch over us while we
tended to any wounds or injuries, so they could notify us if danger came. The same is true
for us today. To feel truly safe in being vulnerable we need to have another person with us.

When you are “healing” something, it means in some form or another, you are bringing up
an event or feeling in your body that has discomfort. When you don’t feel safe, this will send
your nervous system into fight, flight, or freeze mode and your body and mind will start to
separate from the event or feeling you were working to bring up.

When you are with a person that you feel safe with, your nervous system will be able to
navigate/regulate the situation you are wanting to heal more easily because you are not
alone. Meaning in your brain’s awareness, you’re less vulnerable. The other person, if
trained and experienced, can also help to regulate your nervous system too.

Two – Most things you’re healing from happened in person-to-person relationships.

Traumas and hurts that you are working through are things that happened in relation to
someone or something; that creates a type of relationship. A relationship can be with
people, places, or things. You can be healing a relationship with food, a toxic romantic
relationship, or a relationship with a family member.

All of those relationships affect how you show up and interact with your life.
If you are alone on your healing journey, you could work on some of the traumas involving
things or places but your deepest healing is going to be the healing done in relation to
people. And how are you really going to see the progress you’ve made if you’re doing it by
yourself.

Let’s say you working to heal a fear of driving. How would you know that you’ve healed that
fear? You’d get in a car and drive right?

In the isolated incubated healing space, you can start the healing you need to do to face
relationships with people. You can work on your part in an untriggered situation. However,
at some point you are going to need to interact with other humans.
Starting with a safe and kind group people is important. Interacting with people will
introduce you to situations that allow you to see how much healing you’ve done and what
areas can use more. It helps to rebuild your resilience and face triggers in a loving
supportive space.

In this way, you can only reach this level of healing with others around you.

Three – You Discover that you can and do belong

In a strong community there is reciprocity between the members. All contribute and bring
something to the group dynamic. We all are made with unique skills, insights, and
strengths. As you get to know the community, you start to see how you can contribute and
what you have to offer. When you feel the give and receive of a community it really helps
you to feel a part of it – like you have a place where you fit.

Feeling the support and love of community allows you to shift from surviving to thriving. It
helps to give you purpose and feeling of pride. It allows you to be a tree in a forest of other
trees.

And for these three beautiful reasons, I fold community into the focus of my group events.
Every other Wednesday, I provide Sound Healing events where people gather in community
and feel connected and nourished deep in their soul/being.

Check out the Events page on my website to see what community offering is coming up
next.